Is Doing “Pick-Up” The Best Way To Meet Women?

By Jake Vandenhoff

 

The majority of dating experts encourage guys to go out and approach lots of women.

This is the core of the PUA (pick-up-artist) philosophy… Get into the right mind-state, go to a club and start opening sets (approaching groups of women.)

After all, you can’t expect the women to approach you, it’s your job to go out there and spit your game. The guys who promote this school of thought will tell you that while its tough at first, in time you will relax and it will become a part of who you ARE.

And it’s not just PUAs who follow this mode of thinking. Millions of guys who have never heard of the “seduction community” go out and try to pick up girls every day of the week.

I want to make it clear that I love and support doing “pick-up”… I think it’s great. I’ve had wonderful relationships with women I picked up, and I’m grateful for those experiences.

Not only is pick-up awesome because of what it can lead to (fun, loving relationships, great sex), but it is also an incredibly useful self-development tool.

In order to do pick up effectively, you need to be feeling comfortable in your own skin, and you need to be comfortable in social situations. Establishing these personal traits is huge, it will help you get more out of life in a lot of ways, not just with women.

The problem is that a lot of men who want to get better with women look to PUAs for advice, and they are told, “Go do 1000 approaches, and get over your “approach anxiety!”

And these guys aren’t ready to do pick-up! They don’t have any experience with women!

It’s like a kid who has never driven a car before trying to be a stunt driver.

“Pick-up” using “cold-approaches” is the most challenging way to meet women. I wouldn’t recommend it to most beginners, and even some guys with lots of experience would be better off focusing on other ways of meeting women.

I know guys who are amazing with women who NEVER do “pick-up”. These guys are always dating lots of attractive women or have a super-hot girlfriend, but they just don’t do cold approach… NEVER.

So it’s really important not to trick yourself into thinking that you need to master “pick-up”, just so you can date the women you want.

If you are already doing pick up effectively, You should probably stick with it.

Otherwise, it’s probably a good idea to hold off on the pickup and get some recent experience with women under your belt first.

There are a lot of ways to do this…

  1. Do some inner work. You are going to want to do some things for yourself that have nothing to do with women to get you into the right mind-state. This could include learning to relax, getting in shape, getting in touch with something spiritual, getting on top of whatever has you feeling stressed.
  2. Look at the women in your social circle. If there are any good prospects nearby, you should definitely investigate the situation. If you don’t socialize with any attractive women, you should think about being more social in general. Hang out with a greater variety of people, and especially hangout with guys who hang out with lots of attractive women.
  3. Go out, without making “pick-up” the focus. When you go out don’t preoccupy yourself with picking up on women. Instead focus on having fun. The more fun you are having the more other will be drawn to you. You’ll end up meeting more people, having a wider social circle and as a result you will be INTRODUCED to more women.
  4. Sign up for a dating site like match.com. With a good profile up online, you can reasonably expect to meet 20+ dateable women a month.
  5. Follow up on warm leads. If you are following my advice, working out, dressing well, chilling out and getting on top of your mental-state, women will notice, and they will start to flirt with you. When this happens, flirt back.

These five things will help you meet lots of women without doing “pick-up”. Then once you are back in the swing of things (dating frequently, and hooking up) you will have the confidence you need to begin doing cold approaches.

On the other hand, you may find that doing conventional pick-up is no longer necessary as you are happily dating all the women you want without it.

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